Book Review: “When Fish Fly” by John Yokoyama

When I was 17 years old, my family visited Seattle, Washington. I didn’t know much about the city at the time (except that it was the birthplace of my favorite grunge band from middle school, Green Day), but my dad made sure we scheduled a trip to the World Famous Pike Place Fish Market. I didn’t know much about the market going in, but the memories of fish-throwing and the fun atmosphere stuck with me.

Flash forward six years later: I was told I should read a leadership book written by John Yokoyama called When Fish Fly. I wasn’t given much context other than “just read it,” so I decided to give it a go. Little did I know that this leadership book was actually a peek under the hood of the World Famous Pike Place Fish Market. Just like that, I was hooked (pun definitely intended).

When Fish Fly tells the story of how John Yokoyama, with the help of his consultant friend Jim, turn the World Famous Pike Place Fish Market around from a company on the verge of bankruptcy to the world famous market that it is today. While I don’t want to give too much away (because everyone should read this book when you can!), I did want to highlight a few of my favorite quotes:

“Our intention was not to bring fame to ourselves. Instead, it was to deliver as world famous fish mongers would. As is always the case, the intentions from which you work bring forth powerful and unpredictable results.”

In the book, Yokoyama does a great job explaining the importance of finding your “why” (similar to this famous TED talk by Simon Sinek). It’s not just enough to do something well. You have to know why you’re doing it. It’s the why that will get you through the tough times when you don’t feel like you’re making a difference. It’s the why that will get you out of bed when things aren’t going so great. And it’s the why that gives you the motivation and passion to bring about real change.

“Being does not mean the absence of planning. It simply implies that you are not wedded to your plan; instead, you are committed to your intention. It means that you adopt a way to relate to the world instead of a specific course of action. Being is not about trying to control events in your life. Instead, it’s about repeatedly choosing to stay the course of your commitments.”

Yokoyama talks a lot about “being” versus “doing” and describes “being” as the act of living out what you believe without creating a to-do list of steps to accomplish. That’s a pretty hard concept for me, a Type A Georgia Tech alumni, to grasp. And with the endless amounts of self-help books that exist, I think it’s safe to assume I’m not the only one who struggles with this concept. I find it particularly interesting that Yokoyama, the owner and top dog at Pike Place Fish Market, leads with this style of being committed to his vision and intention, rather than creating a specific course of action for the company. This type of leadership is very similar to Servant Leadership, the philosophy and practice of leading by putting others (i.e. your followers) before you and being committed to their success and empowerment.

“Personally, I decided it is better to trust, because that fits my life better.”

John Yokoyama whole-heartedly trusts all of his employees. This fact is evident throughout the book as he cites several instances where he willingly trusted. One example includes the time he loaned $10,000 to an employee so that he could buy a house. Or the time(s) he bailed his employees out of jail. Or the time that he hired and fired an employee three different times, the last being after the employee had returned from rehab and had successfully turned his life around. And like anyone would assume, Yokoyama has been burned pretty badly on a few different occasions by his employees. But he also realized that trusting others just fits his lifestyle better. It’s the attitude that reflects his commitment to his overall vision. It’s the attitude that allows leaders to give everything they’ve got to the cause. It’s the attitude that inspires others to follow.

What did I miss? Share your thoughts with me!

The Dummy’s Guide To Messaging Apps: Part 1

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Email, Gchat, Facebook comments, Twitter direct messages, text messages, Instagram private messages, and face-to-face conversations — just a few of the ways anyone can reach me on any given day. There seems to be no end to the constant development of how we communicate.

While I personally think it’s important to keep a check on how often we use virtual communication (if for no other reason than the sake of sanity), I thought it would be interesting to write a review on ten of the most popular messaging apps. Some of these apps I use regularly, while others were downloaded for the sake of this post.

I decided to break this blog down into two separate posts, so as to not overwhelm everyone completely. Look for Part 2 coming soon!

1. GroupMe

GroupMe works like a private chatroom for your group of friends. It’s simple to start a new conversation and it works on any phone, either within the app or via SMS. It’s definitely the best way to have a group conversation if you’re looking to text, but there is a major caveat that comes along with that: once a conversation gets going, the push notifications are never ending. And if you are not fortunate enough to have a smart phone, these messages come via SMS as individual text messages, meaning your inbox can fill up very quickly.

In my opinion, conversations that need to happen virtually between a group of people are best suited for email threads. But if you enjoy group messaging and you have a smartphone, GroupMe is definitely the way to go.

2. SnapChat

Ahhhh, Snapchat. If you haven’t heard about this app yet, you probably don’t have any youngsters in your life OR you don’t leave your house very often. The Snapchat craze has been sweeping the nation since 2011, and it shows no sign of stopping any time soon. The basic premise is simple: send pictures or videos that have a short caption and last up to 10 seconds. From there, they are deleted forever (although I have strong opinions on whether anything is really, truly “deleted” forever – refer to this blog post).

When one first hears about the basic functionality of this app, it’s easy to assume it’s being used for naughty purposes. However, these days, the app is widely used by teens and adults as just a fun way to have a conversation.

Snapchat has tried to stay relevant by adding new features a few times each year. The most recent update includes the ability to text and video chat with friends. However, I personally think these new features aren’t in line with Snapchat’s core competency and give off a pretty strong “trying-too-hard” vibe. Instead of trying to be all things messaging to all people, Snapchat should stick to what they do best – allowing us to send stupid pictures of ourselves with a witty one liner that we can forget ever happened after 10 seconds.

3. You&Me

This app has proven to be my favorite find so far. It was created by the online dating service HowAboutWe and is a messaging app that is only built for two. Designed to be a central point of communication between a couple, the app allows for messaging, photos, music sharing, and video. There are other cool features as well, such as the ability to create a “halfsie” photo, where you take a picture of half of your face and match it with the other half of your partner’s face (cheesy, I know). There is even a Snapchat-esque feature that allows you to send a “secret,” aka a photo that arrives foggy and requires one to “wipe away the steam” in order to see the picture. It then fogs up again after 10 seconds.

Even though this app is cheesy beyond belief, it’s also really fun — just like a relationship. My boyfriend and I have enjoyed using it for the past few weeks, and it has actually replaced most of our iMessaging. I recommend this app for couples or for best friends — either way, it definitely provides a fun, new twist on mobile messaging.

4. Facebook Messenger

In my opinion, this is one of the most pointless messaging apps created. It is essentially just an extension of the original Facebook app, and it’s only functionality is chat. If you use Facebook messaging constantly, this app probably serves a purpose for you, but otherwise, the app offers no originality and is pretty pointless.

5. Tango

This app’s main functionality is mobile video calls over 3G, 4G, and WiFi, but there are a few other cool features, as well. The video calling works the same was as mobile Skype or FaceTime, but one of my favorite parts is the ability to play games with each other while still on the call. The games are, albeit, pretty simple, but it’s still fun to be able to smack talk your opponent as you play. The app also includes a newsfeed with updates from your Tango contacts, and gives you the ability to share photos and music. While the newsfeed option isn’t much of a draw, this app does offer a unique way to place video calls, and is definitely worth a try.

 

What did I miss? Have a different opinion on one of these apps? Let me know!

“Share My Results”: A Young Woman’s Obsession with Online Quizzes

 

Quiz-aholics Anonymous

My name is Emily, and I am addicted to online quizzes.

Buzzfeed sucks me in every day. I start out by innocently scrolling through their ridiculously entertaining posts learning things like 23 useless facts that I totally need to know or 82 astounding facts about cats.

Next thing I know, I’m taking this quiz to find out how awkward of a person I am (only a 22/70 – whew!).

Or this quiz to find out which 00’s rapper I am (Eve, obviously).

And then all of the sudden, I have traveled down this rabbit hole, and I am letting the Internet tell me what kind of wedding I should have, what I should name my baby, where I should live, and what job I should have (Vegas, Sage, Portland, and astronaut, respectively).

Of course, I know these “results” are completely arbitrary and prove nothing about my true self (Me? A Vegas wedding? C’mon).

But the rise in popularity of the online quiz is intriguing, nonetheless.

A Quest for Identity

In this article by Devon Moloney, fear of the unknown and a desire for self-identity are the two main sources behind our obsession with online quizzes. Moloney references MIT psychologist and cultural analyst Sherry Turkle, who describes her thoughts on the matter, going as far as to say that, “Basically, we’re trying to get a number.”

In the case of the endlessly silly Buzzfeed quizzes, a “number” isn’t as much of a right or wrong answer as it is a funny, random result that may, or may not, tell us something about ourselves.

So if we know the quiz result is arbitrary and usually completely made-up, why, oh why, is it so tempting to hit that “Share My Results” button?

Like Maloney explains, “The fun isn’t taking the quiz—it’s showing the result to others.”

Sharing quiz results on social media give us a fun, albeit random, source of identity and serve as a conversation starter, if nothing else.

But some might argue that the obsession we have with sharing information that says less about our true selves and more about how funny/interesting/likable we are points to the bigger social media problem at hand: does our Facebook wall reflect who we really are?

More thoughts on this soon!

 

What did I miss? How do you view online quizzes and self-identity?